Who gets the data after a couple gets divorced? You might be surprised at just how much Facebook data plays in a divorce scenario, and if Take this Lollypop didn’t scare you, this should make you stop and think for a minute about data, and who it belongs to.
Any good divorce lawyer is going to ask you for a couple of things, why you want to get divorced, and access to social media, Facebook, G+, Reddit, and anything else that someone is posting data to. We all have a tendency to talk, and if we are unhappy, we will be more than happy to talk about it with everyone outside our immediate family. Facebook data is priceless in divorce proceedings to show intent, desire, and in some cases, actual issues that can lead to divorce. But what do we do about the family’s data after the divorce?
By data I mean kids pictures, shared pictures, sometimes happy family moments that people will still want to share. What happens if Grandma or Grandpa in a fit of not remembering you were divorced shows off the wedding pictures but once again on Facebook? What if those pictures are then later on used in stalking, or blackmail, or in some cases, like the one linked here, on Match.com to show off the happy kids so that a prospective new partner knows that kids come along with the deal?
“Social media has become a very big issue in all aspects of divorce,” said Alton Abramowitz, president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. His firm counsels clients to shut down their social media profiles as soon as they begin considering a divorce. Parents who post questionable pictures that may potentially embarrass a child later might find those same pictures and status updates used against them in court. It speaks to poor parental judgment, he said. Source STLToday.com
Got a picture of a kiddo naked butting in the living room; is this a good or bad parental choice to throw that up online? Of course it might be cute, but it also might show that the parent has made some bad choices when it comes to the kids and what is shared. This and other behaviors like showing off being a party person, drinking, drugs, and other things posted on line can really hurt your chances even for visitation. Lawyers advise that you should simply drop out of social media for a while, and shut down your page, I recommend at the very least scrub your page for anything at all that society might not quite get. Practicing Satanist, take down any and all references to the Church of Satan, that is frowned upon in regular society, and could hurt your chances of getting visitation or anything else to do with your kids.
Social Media is not just for job hunting anymore, you should always be aware of what you post, if you are not proud of it and willing to defend it, and then you shouldn’t post it. The old saw about “would your mother approve” works here, but really what we are looking at is societal boundaries, will the courts, your boss, your peers approve of what you are doing? You can always find support groups online for anything, including fetishes via FetLife.com, but are you willing to have dragged out in court that you have a daddy-daughter fetish? Can you defend it and make it sound normal enough to be around the kids on a regular basis unsupervised?
Social media is broadcast media, with the widest possible audience. Post accordingly because you will be judged not just for employment, but for every other aspect of sociability that you can think of. If you think that your social postings are going to get you in trouble, they probably would. We all have things we want to bury; social media is not the place ever to bring them out, at least not in public.
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(Cross-posted @ Managing Intellectual Property & IT Security)